Do you think you are addicted to love? Are you in true love or are you just addicted to being loved? Can’t you even manage to stay single for a month? These are some of the questions that are quite difficult to answer. The first and the foremost thing when it comes to love addiction is that most of the people are unaware that they are addicted to love. They often confuse love addiction with true love. Usually love addiction is difficult to detect and it may not be able to identify its signs right away.
When two people fall in love their relationship matures and they become more comfortable with one another. But if one person is addicted to love, there may be certain other reasons which may cause the affection. The love between people may be due to intense emotional needs rather than due to understanding or caring. This can lead to complicated relationships which may very easily fall apart. Here are some of the signs that can be used to detect love addiction.
Always on the Lookout for Romance
You are addicted to love when you cannot possible stand being alone. This means that you need someone to be there with you all the time. All you end up doing is jumping from one guy to another for romance. You feel that there is love in your life but all that there is in your life is suffering that is a result of codependency.
Emotional Need
A person who is emotionally needy may end up becoming addicted to love. The reason for this is that since you would want your emotional needs to be satisfied all the time you would need someone to be there with you all the time. And even if you end up breaking up with someone you would soon go to someone else to fulfill your needs.
You Have Become Incapable of Sound Decision Making
If all your decisions solely depend on your partner then chances are you have been addicted to love. Love addiction can also result in you making all your decisions only after discussing them with your partner.
Your Demands are Too High in a Relationship
This is one thing that needs to be resolved very quickly in a relationship. Why? Because if you are over demanding, your partner may find it difficult to cope up with you and this may lead to a collapse of your relationship. You need to understand that love is all about give and take not take only.
These are some of the signs that indicate that your life is moving towards love addiction and steps need to be taken to ensure that you do not get addicted to love.
Anyone who thinks they may be a love addict should read LOVE ADDICT: SEX, ROMANCE AND OTHER DANGEROUS DRUGS by Ethlie Ann Vare (HCI Books, 2011). It’s smart and funny and really explains what love addiction is, where it comes from, and what you can do about it if you have it. Also, some Hollywood celebrities tell their stories. I got so much out of this book!