Man beggingIt seems that just when you have decided to stop trying to find love, you do. So, could it be argued that the reason as to why so many people don’t find love is because they are looking too hard? Although the answer is not as clear cut as we would like it to be, I do have a few tips to get you help when it comes to your search for a new love.  Well, it is actually more of a list about how to not search for love and advice on becoming a fulfilled happy person.

The most attractive people are the ones seen as the least needy. Get to know one person very intimately.  Spend a lot of quality time with this person.  Discover what they enjoy and what they dislike.  Do activities that bring out this person’s fun-loving nature.  Really look into what makes this one person tick.  You must learn them inside and out.  So, the only real question here would be with whom should you form this incredible bond?  The answer may surprise you.  It’s you.  If you don’t know who you are, it is very unlikely you will find another person willing to get to know you.

This may sound silly, but make a list.  Write down specific qualities you would find attractive.  Are there things that you do now that you would not be willing to give up?  Then you want a partner who enjoys that, too.  On the list, you might want to consider some items that you would find unacceptable in a potential long-term relationship.  It is better to think about those now, before start a relationship with someone.  It is always good to know what you are looking for in case you stumble across that person.

Go places and do things you enjoy wholeheartedly.  These are the best places to meet people.  Don’t go there looking for love, though.  Go and have fun.  Odds are when you feel free and are being totally involved in something you love; this is when you are at your most attractive.  And do remember, if you go there expecting a love match, you are going to look desperate.  And I promise that is the worst cologne.  It drives prospective dates away faster than bugs from repellant!

Truthfully, we all want someone to spend time with and who enjoys being with us.  And it gets harder and harder out in the dating pool to keep your head above water.  So, relax and quit looking.  Get to know who you are and learn to enjoy your own company first.  Then go about your life.  Love will find you where and when you least expect it.  So, be sure you know exactly what you are looking for so you don’t miss it!

Always remember to have a positive attitude and stay true to yourself. There is no one more important than you and nothing more important than your own happiness. If you lead a happy life and a positive, rewarding quality of living, love will find you.